One annoying thing I don’t like about some people is their inability to be truthful to the people they call their friends. It’s always good to be open about how you feel and also what you want. This is better than trying to make “amends” simply for the sake of it because, in the end, it shows that you’re doing it out of courtesy and not necessarily because you want to. And trust me, when people figure out that you’re doing things you really don’t want to do, it’ll reduce their enthusiasm to take part in it.
However, for some reason, people will never really be straightforward with their intentions. And it also comes to play with major events of their lives. If you don’t want certain people in your lives for certain reasons, then you simply shouldn’t have them in it. If you don’t want certain people at your birthday parties, don’t invite them. If you don’t want them at your wedding, do not invite them either. It’s way better than actually inviting them in a way that you’ll be sure that they won’t come.
What’s bringing all this talk on? Well, I just heard the story of a lady who is about to get married and she didn’t inform her friends until two days before the event. Everyone knows just how big a deal a wedding can be, with the clothes and time schedules and how hectic reconciling everything can be. And then, considering how everyone is either a worker or a student, they’d need ample time to prepare for the wedding.
However, by telling them only two days to the wedding, you’re simply asking for the impossible. Knowing fully well that many of them won’t be able to stop what they’re doing and hurry over to your wedding. Personally, I wouldn’t like such a behavior. I’d prefer it if you don’t invite me at all, let me know that you didn’t want me there. Believe me, I won’t hold it against you. It’s better than you sending the invite when it’s too late for me to even attempt to do anything about it.
I see it purely as an insult. You’re trying not to come off as not wanting me there, but it’s what you really want. Because no one gets married on a whim. At the very least, there should be a few months of planning. That’s enough time to send out all the invites. So, if you had all the time to do it and you chose to do it only at the last minute, then I wouldn’t be there. It’s as simple as that.
I’m sure people like these have their reasons. Maybe they don’t want jinxes on their big day so they limit it to as few ears as possible. But then, I can’t help what I feel right? If you feel my knowledge of the wedding could ruin it for you, then I probably don’t want to be at the wedding either.
Hehe… this is not even my story and I’m taking it personally. I guess I was just angry on behalf of the person that told me. So, the sum total of it all remains the same. Let’s be intentional in our dealings. Be ready to let people know what you want and what you don’t want. Also, be ready to take responsibility for it. Going through corners, and trying to look one way after doing some shady things would never look good on you. It’s an insult to the person you’re trying to fool.
We need to do better.
